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No Sympathy From Me

Suicide Coming Home

Many years ago, a friend hung himself in his basement.  I was a pall-bearer at his funeral. I was shocked I was so asked.  I did this.  I did not understand why a good-looking fellow, intelligent, kindly, and true could do such a thing. He did. I do not.  His family suffered greatly.  Yet he left no issue.   Thankfully.

To my mind Country singer Mindy McCready, 37, showed us the very height of personal selfishness by committing suicide.  By giving birth to two offspring, she accepted the responsibility to raise her newborn and six-year old son.  She abrogated it spectacularly.  (As did the father a month ago.)  Though she may have suffered depression for any number of reasons, she has little sympathy from me for leaving behind a legacy that is now lost, is now parent-less, and may drift into problems of their own in the future.    There is shame and heartbreak in all this, but blame should be administered in full dose to Mindy.  Shooting the dog?  This is sick.

Sure, you can say she was addicted to drugs and alcohol; she was depressed.  But drugs and alcohol were her choices.  This makes her solution acceptable?  No! The suicide was her choice, but it flies in the face of human responsibility and the basic norms of humanity. Of course Mindy's solution is not unique to her.  Being a member of this redoubtable crowd does not diminish the ethical and moral bankruptcy illustrated by her action.

Many of us are depressed, but we accept our responsibilities; we do our best.  Many of us have hard lives, multiple disappointments, many disillusionments, countless setbacks, now and substantially in the past centuries.  Nonetheless, we all do our best; we live for the next generation.  Our children come first!


This is a time for grief, to be sure, but mostly for those two children whose loss of parents is beyond valuation. Sympathy accrues to those innocents, not to Mindy.

You will not hear these sentiments in the press or on television.  They focus on her clinical depression, her dependence on drug and alcohol, and her despair.  They will apologize on her behalf.  They will not mention her multiple sins against her children.

Story is at: http://www.cnn.com/2013/02/18/showbiz/mindy-mccready-death/index.html

Comments

  1. Very appropriate! You and I must have a unique gift to tell things exactly as they are.

    To many, this is an easy-out alternative and of course, the media shouts all kinds of niceties over the matter covering the real truth with insane lies.
    Unfortunately, this person will not be in heaven for murderers, even of themselves, will not make it in. This is according to scripture.

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